Thursday, September 27, 2007

Have you ever been..


..disappointed by a friend?

..and when you try to forgive her
and forget the cause,
still you cannot let go
just yet?

..and in that attempt
you try to blame yourself for letting it all happened
since you already know that what happened
was actually expected,

knowing the particular habit of your friend?

..and yet you still consider her your truest friend?


Reach me, friend, for I am still fond of you.
But I cannot laugh or chat with you

just yet




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46 comments:

  1. sure does..
    itu adalah salah satu "bumbu"pertemanan,
    apalagi kalo dia temen deket...
    the two of you just have to work it out
    but take your time...

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  2. yes..pernah..
    beberapa kali pernah dikecewain sama temen baikku..pernah diboongin, pernah dibecadain keterlaluan etc.
    tapi untung nya - terbuka - marah dan forgive ada baik nya juga.
    sampai sekarang masih temenan sama dia.
    *tapi tetep perasaan was2 itu ada.

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  3. just like what happens to a longtime married couple when they get crabby :)
    thanks dee.. *curhat beneran*

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  4. ..and by now we should know that they will never change. yup, take them as they are. thx.

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  5. pernah dung Ta..
    betul kata Deedee tuh, bumbu-nya pertemanan.

    *eh pesenan gw masih ada kan Ta? doain bisa ketemuan di Bandung yaks*

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  6. iya bener, dan biasanya gue let go aja. tp kali ini kerugian di pihak gue bukan cuma emosi, tp (so far) juga materi yg gak bisa diganti, makanya curhat colongan deh. trims ya :)

    pesenan masih ada, tapi yg versi baru lebih tebel lho :D PM aja kalo udah deket2 bandung, moga2 waktunya cocok!

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  7. hhmm.. atao beli versi baru juga? bols dweh Ta klo gitu tapi pake ttd elo yaks.. *tuh gampang kan iming²in seorang shopaholic :))* nanti gw PM notel gw di Jkt, biar qta bisa tele²an.

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  8. wokeh..

    versi baru ini isinya adalah versi lama + beberapa halaman tambahan (jadi lebih tebel). gampang lah, ntar bawain semuanya aja, tinggal dipilih ;))

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  9. pernah banget Ta, kadang gue tahan, kadang gak tahan juga (dan nyaris nyerah, pernah berpikir utk gak temenan lagi, hiiiiy), klo lagi kayak gitu (sohib gue ini moody bgt) gue minggir dulu deh, tapi selama ini sih akhirnya baik lagi... pelan2 Ta...

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  10. ini jangan sampe deh, abis anaknya sebenernya asik, tapi dia clueless banget soal beginian :P

    ternyata nulis2 begini membantu meredam ya :) *huggg lita*

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  11. waduh.. ini gue Ta??? gara2 gw gak bisa ke Bandung kemarin???? :O

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  12. sepupu *hugs*
    pernah bener ! ya kamu taulah ceritanya gimana kan ?
    iya nih, pasti tita lagi ngomongin motul nih *kompor mode on*

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  13. Sigh, I get what you mean....Been there!

    Take as long a time you want...

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  14. yes,we fought so hard,caused me a BAD headache for 2 days.
    Kalo kata orang jaman dulu mbak, bikin bloedroek (ini bener nggak nulisnya ya?) Kalo kata seorang teman yang bijak, semakin kita menyayangi seseorang, semakin yakin kita kalo orang itu akan memaafkan jika kita salah.

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  15. ..... a decade ago, but i think i still remember vaguely how it felt..
    blaming yourself, wishing to go back to the past, keep playing alternative scenarios... -- that's the circle... again and again.. and ended up feeling stupid.
    to break the chain is to stop blaming yourself, i guess. it's hard, but eventually you'll get it passed. you'll not forget, but time will heal.
    if a hug helps, here is a *BIG HUG* from Tempe.

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  16. heck yeah...many times..hehehe... but instead of blaming my self I'm mostly more angry to myself to let it happens repeatedly and ended up feeling stupid (which ofcourse creates more anger...halah...dasar grumpy...hehehe)....
    anyhow..to forgive and forget will have to take some times...so take it easy and don't be too hard on yourself...you'll let it go when you're ready...take care will ya..

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  17. heheh.. berulang kali, dan setiap kali kejadiannya fatal!
    yang sendableg aku pun sampe bisa ikutan kesel :P *hugs balik*

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  18. This is exactly the phase I'm in :D Thank youu

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  19. bloeddruk = tekanan darah. maksudnya naik darah kali ya?

    kalo kita sulit memaafkan, berarti kitanya emang nggak sayang2 amat ama orang itu ya :P

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  20. Yes, I'm taking my time to get to this part. In the meantime, the stupid feeling is still around :D
    Thanks Mer! (returning a *big hug* from Northern Bandung)

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  21. :) Cheer Up Mbak :)
    Btw liat gambarnya jadi inget karya desain Tita yang dulu, sarana main anak-anak, ada perosotannya :) Ada hubungannya?

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  22. oh well, kalo emang kejadian nya udah berulang2 sih, mendingan ask yourself a question, is he/she such a friend that worth to keep ? kalo enggak, mendingan nggak usah urusan lagi sama dia aja, daripada kata loe ruginya dua kali, emosi & materi, apalagi orangnya mungkin emang udah punya "reputasi" seperti itu dimana2

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  23. *hugs*
    ah aku belum pernah liat tita.. so cloudy like this before..
    jazz up :) I've been there & will be there, darn sure, I sometimes think.. .. why true friends sometimes like peas in a pod with those super villains..:P

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  24. Bener, blm pernah liat mb Tita spt ini... :( Mungkin time will tell what your next step will/should be, re. your relationship with her.

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  25. pernah, tapi untungnya bukan teman baik... heheheh

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  26. whahaha inget aja. itu salah satu model yg sukses karena udah nggak pake teknik dempul & cat, tapi udah pake lapisan stiker! mulusss!

    foto itu hasil browsing aja :P kebetulan dapet yg pas: temenku itu sudah membuat tempat main kita jadi suram, nggak fun lagi, at least untuk sementara ini.

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  27. hueee.. itu dia. paling jadinya gue jaga jarak aja deh :(

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  28. or: why super friends are sometimes like peas in a pod with true villains.. :D
    *hugs ipih*

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  29. heran juga aku, ternyata punya "masa marah2" yg sangat jarang terjadi.. :|
    thanks yik :D

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  30. andaikan yg ini bukan teman baik, pasti jurnal ini nggak ada - karena dia pasti udah keburu ta' pegat! :))

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  31. Bener... gak pernah liat posting yg begini biru (cieee) dari Tita. I'm sure it'll pass. Not a nice feeling but it's actually great because we 'weed' out our list of friends and now know whom to trust. As for the financial loss, hey, it's a well-spent tuition fee!

    *Huuuuuuuuuugggggg*

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  32. Hug Tita ... aku juga pernah ngerasain kayak gini Ta .. sedih ya ..

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  33. ini sudah lebih dari biru, tapi charcoal grey (hadoooh :P)

    yes it's awful, especially knowing that this friend underestimates something that is very important for me. but at least now I know that she's not among my priorities either. thank youuu *huuuggg*

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  34. *hug balik* ..iya nyebelin, energi negatif jadi keluar..

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  35. kalo emang dia punya tabiat tertentu, ta, mending emang hindari berurusan dgn dia utk hal2 yg membangkitkan tabiatnya itu (kalo emang masih mau bertemen ama dia). jd menghindari konfrontasi yg pasti terjadi.
    yg bikin ekstra gondok sih kalo selama ini itu temen memberi kesan org yg bertanggung jwb tp tau2 nipu (marah2 pulak).

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  36. Gua pernah, beberapa kali malah. Tapi, gua orangnya yang memaafkan tapi ga pernah bisa melupakan. Jadi untuk beberapa urusan, ga bisa percaya lagi kalo temen itu udah bikin salah lebih dari sekali. Sekali khilaf, dua kali lupa, tiga kali sengaja, PLAK!

    *hug Tita*

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  37. sepertinya memang ini solusi yg paling tepat biar kita tetep bisa temenan.

    dulu sih dia lumayan tanggung jawab, tapi lama2 dia ubah prioritasnya - akibatnya: komitmen yg ke gue jadi dibelakangkan. sebenernya gue gpp kalo dia dari awal sudah menolak, gue jg maklum. tapi ternyata masih janji2 terus, dan gue masih berharap aja. huh, takkan lagi :P

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  38. hehe sama :D *hugggss*
    (psst.. denger2 itu salah satu sifat capricorn: ingatannya seperti gajah!)

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  39. Iya Ta.. gw salah.. maaf ya.. :( please jangan hukum gw lama2

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  40. Oooowww .. pantesan .. hahahaha .. ih gue capricorn sejati dong Ta kalau gitu hehehe

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  41. Oooowww .. pantesan .. hahahaha .. ih gue capricorn sejati dong Ta kalau gitu hehehe

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